How to deal with the loss of a pet
It’s a sad topic, but unfortunately something many pet owners have to face at some point. The loss of a pet can be as hard as the loss of a family member, and whilst it is a difficult period, it’s best to not be too hasty in looking for a new pet to fill the void.
There are many things to consider, and many implications on both yourself and your pet. Before that all important change to your life is made, have a think about these questions:
Is getting a new pet the answer? Will the pet allow you to move on and forge a new loving relationship, or will you hold on to the love you once felt with your previous pet, hoping that the new one will emulate and replace your loss? Perhaps you’ll choose the same breed in the hope it will look similar, or act the same way? Think about why you really want the pet before you make the decision.
If you are more likely to hold on to your loss, perhaps trying to replace your beloved friend should wait. Pets are naturally empathetic to their owners’ feelings, and should your unhappiness toward a pet that is not living up to expectations run too strongly, the pet may feel unloved and act up, or even become depressed itself.
In turn, this will make the pet appear even worse in your eyes, and ultimately the relationship can become much worse for you both. This is an unfortunate experience, and if this might happen to you, it would be best to wait until you can truly come to terms with your loss.
Have you considered how the loss may have affected your other pets? By replacing their previous bed/walk/play mate, they may feel threatened or that the new pet can be used as an outlet for any pent up frustration or aggression they have – dogs and cats have emotions just like humans, and you should be wary for how your other pets might act to a newcomer so soon after a loss.
Should you believe that a new pet can help you then the best course of action is to take things slowly. Remember why you got the pet, and hold on to the positive experiences you will have, but also remember the useful experiences you will have had with the previous pet, and draw from what you learned.
Consider the financial implications, and whether you can afford a new pet and pet insurance. In these modern times where money can be an issue, it is important to plan ahead; with vet fees, the need for shots and other treatments can increase the dent in your wallet, while the other necessities such as leads, bowls, a supply of food and even doggy bags are all something you need to have a comprehensive plan for. While these may seem obvious, sometimes the cost of the new pet is all we have in mind.
A new pet may be exactly the right remedy, however. For example: by choosing to adopt a puppy into your life, you may help heal your sorrow sooner. The puppy can help you through hard times by distracting you, and the bond you forge as the new dog grows, learns from and depends on you may be even more special because of this. As such, you should always discuss any options you believe are open to you, and plan accordingly during what we, at Animal Friends, appreciate is a very difficult time.
